Valentine’s day. Now if that’s not a holiday with some intense connotations, I don’t know what is. While I am approximately 8000 miles away from my man for this Valentine’s day, we were lucky enough to celebrate it in advance together before I left Canada. I really should say that I was the lucky one – Curtis planned everything out and took me for a beautiful holiday away from our holiday (it was a tough two months 😉 ) at some beautiful hot springs in Vancouver. He spoilt me rotten with flowers and chocolates and was just the sweetest guy in the world to me, as usual 🙂
We spent the day hiking around the beautiful lake, doing yoga amongst the geese that looked like they wanted to eat me, and languishing in the hot springs. Wow. Even just reading that I am reliving how great it was.
Curtis and I both worked really hard last year to be able to take that time together, and spending every second with my man was even more important to me than it would have been otherwise because I knew we would have another seven months long distance ahead of us afterwards.
While seven months apart is not my favourite thing ever, I feel lucky to be with someone I love enough to want to do that with, and I also know that MANY other people are doing long distance and doing it for longer times than we are. Curtis and I often talk about how lucky we are in this day and age where we can Skype every day and email and not send letters that may never arrive because the pidgeon died or whatever they did back in the day. We also feel really lucky that our circumstances mean that we are apart for reasons we are so grateful for, ie. my masters course/his awesome jobs and music in Canada.
While we celebrated Valentine’s day and it was magical, I think that Valentine’s day can be really hard. For me in the past when I have already felt lonely, Valentine’s day and other holidays have only seemed to exacerbate how lonely I feel.
I recently did an essay for psych on the developmental stages of life, and loneliness in the twenties was something that came up a lot. I definitely think it is a lifelong thing that people struggle with at different ages, but for me right now in my twenties I know that this tumultuous state of life can definitely bring some lonely times.
Having said that, I eventually managed to stop looking at all the things I didn’t have on Valentine’s day (ie. a happy love life/boyfriend) and look at all the things I did have. I started to look at Valentine’s as a day to celebrate LOVE, and to me love is many things, not only romantic love.
Love is love for your family
Love for your friends
Love for your pets
Love for your health
Love for yourself
What does Valentines Day mean to you? Do you celebrate it or is it just another day?
What do you do when you feel lonely? – I call someone eg my family/Curtis/a friend, and try to arrange to hang out. A good run always helps me shake it off too and reminds me how much amazing stuff I have in my life 🙂